Loyalty to Self

Grassroots:  Self
What is loyalty to Self? Is it living my spiritual thrust in everything I do? Is it seeing everything I am involved in as an opportunity for spiritual growth? Is it planifying with my 5 W's (What, When, Where, Why and Who is getting something out of it) in advance so my guidance has a chance to work with me? Is it realizing I breathe for myself and no one can do it for me?
Leadership : Selfish
If I am all that matters to me, when am I being selfish? Is it when I become an opportunist; stealing the pie off the window and then hiding in guilt? Is it when I manipulate my teammates or take advantage of their generosity? Using people is OK, as long as it's a fair exchange - BOTH parties must agree it's a fair exchange, or it's not a fair exchange. One cannot dictate fairness to another.